An incident, a situation, an event or a shock that has left you feeling like everything has changed in the flash of a moment is a Wake Up call. It is an experience that rocks you to your core.
If you have received a Wake Up call and you feel like you don’t know which way to turn, be aware that self-sabotaging behaviors lurk in the crevices of painful experiences.
Methods of coping that have gotten you through life thus far may need to be updated for the next level of experiences.
If you have experienced:
the recent death of a loved one
the breakup of a long term relationship
a serious medical diagnosis
loss of a job or career path
5 things not to do when a Wake Up call comes knocking on your beautiful life:
▼ Don’t try to avoid the pain that you feel. The way to cope with a life changing event is to pass through it, work with your emotions, instead of trying to avoid the pain. Responses to grief and loss are very personal. Incredible growth can come from being present and developing the mental strength. Growth is a potential from painful experiences,
▼ Don’t try to numb your emotions. Your emotions are incredibly valuable in informing you of how you’re doing. Numbing behaviors include: taking substances, over eating, over sleeping, over shopping, over scrolling.
▼ Don’t push yourself to be how you used to be. Give yourself some space and time to heal from the experience that has changed your life. Find those people whom you feel are ‘safe’, with whom you can share authentically and who don’t want to ‘fix' you. Revisit your spiritual beliefs and commitments.
▼ Don’t focus too much on the past or the future. Practice a ‘be here now’ mentality. Don’t spend too much time hashing over the details of what happened. Don’t worry too much about the distant future. Avoid words like ‘always’, and ‘never’. Example: I will never feel joy again. Instead: I don’t feel joy now. At a time of chaos, finding structure can be very useful. Join a group dealing with a similar issue, create healthy habits, exercise regularly.
▼ Do not make major life-changing decisions, unless you have to. When a life-changing experience has changed your life dramatically, it will take some healing to be able to assess what your needs are going forward. Imagine you have just had a major surgery. Healing takes time and effort. With open energy as opposed to narrow, closed, thinking, you will survive and thrive this Wake Up call.
Mantras
It sounds simplistic to adopt a mantra when a very difficult experience has impacted your beautiful life. The mantras, ’one step at a time’, or ‘one day at a time’, can help ease thought that cause anxiety. Better yet if you find your own mantra to help you through.
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